That second one is particularly pernicious because it means that the apologizer is not actually taking responsibility for his or her actions. It defeats the purpose of step 2 by failing to acknowledge that one has, in fact, done something worth apologizing for.
Not only that, it blames the wronged person for having the temerity to feel wronged.
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Not only that, it blames the wronged person for having the temerity to feel wronged.