Fetishes are always difficult for me to wrap my head around, and the more intensely fetishized something is, the more alien I find the fetishizer or the thoughts that lead to fetishization. I did get some of that from this guy, but in a way that seemed pretty honest and realistic to me. I mean, if he was into fat women all along and repressed it, that's a pretty clear path to fetishization.

That said, I got, also, from this article that he got beyond the fetish by also wanting to find a woman who he loved, not just who he could objectify.

And I sure as hell appreciate his being willing to talk about it and be up front about his preference.