Well, if I were S-A-S, I’d be grateful to to hear something like “Not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, and no need to respond unless you feel like it, but I wanted you to know I didn’t like it when you did X.” That would leave me free to apologize or not, but would correct my impression that since you always laugh nervously and get a funny look on your face when I do X, you must like it.
My notion of ISBs is that they generally have their own agenda, so if I were S-A-S and ISB approached me over drinks, I wouldn’t necessarily trust that I was getting an accurate message. (For that matter, if I were in your position, I wouldn’t necessarily trust ISB to pass the message along accurately, as opposed to making it all about when S-A-S got ISBs sister that really crappy and offensive birthday card.) But if ISB is somebody everybody trusts, then yeah, ISB can be really useful.
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Date: 2009-02-16 05:26 pm (UTC)My notion of ISBs is that they generally have their own agenda, so if I were S-A-S and ISB approached me over drinks, I wouldn’t necessarily trust that I was getting an accurate message. (For that matter, if I were in your position, I wouldn’t necessarily trust ISB to pass the message along accurately, as opposed to making it all about when S-A-S got ISBs sister that really crappy and offensive birthday card.) But if ISB is somebody everybody trusts, then yeah, ISB can be really useful.