My metric is "will talking to them help or can I solve this problem another way?" Sometimes saying something messes up the dynamics enough that it harms more than it helps.
You don't need an ISB, though - a mutual friend would be good enough. You could mention to a mutual friend and ask them for their opinion as to what's going on, and if you wanted you could ask the mutual friend to casually say something....
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Date: 2009-02-16 09:30 pm (UTC)You don't need an ISB, though - a mutual friend would be good enough. You could mention to a mutual friend and ask them for their opinion as to what's going on, and if you wanted you could ask the mutual friend to casually say something....