I'm surprised by the face that I'm in the minority when it comes to the last question. If someone says something good about me that I don't believe, I find it very easy to sluff it off: "Oh, it's nice that they think that, but I guess they don't know me that well" or some such. If it's someone who does know me well...hm...I guess I just always find it easier hearing positive things. ;-)
Yeah, I'm with you on both counts. I don't assume that if someone says something good I don't believe that it's something I need to accept as a good quality-- it seems more likely that they just don't know me well. (Like when my midwife said "I can't imagine you as other than calm." Ha! She's funny.)
And yeah, I feel kinda shallow answering that was, but it's just easier to hear nice things than bad things, because it means the person feels positively towards me and that's nicer than the opposite.
And yeah, I feel kinda shallow answering that was, but it's just easier to hear nice things than bad things, because it means the person feels positively towards me and that's nicer than the opposite.
Indeed! Also, to me, something negative means potentially needing to do some work, because even if I think they're wrong, it still means that I may need to change how I act in order to not give that wrong impression. Something positive doesn't require any self-examination of potentially-painful behavioural adjustments.
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Date: 2010-01-12 05:56 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-01-12 07:32 pm (UTC)And yeah, I feel kinda shallow answering that was, but it's just easier to hear nice things than bad things, because it means the person feels positively towards me and that's nicer than the opposite.
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Date: 2010-01-12 08:28 pm (UTC)Indeed! Also, to me, something negative means potentially needing to do some work, because even if I think they're wrong, it still means that I may need to change how I act in order to not give that wrong impression. Something positive doesn't require any self-examination of potentially-painful behavioural adjustments.
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