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[aroraborealis]

I judge people for _________________________.

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[veek.livejournal.com]

I'm assuming you mean "negatively judge," not "evaluate on the basis of" -- the latter list would be much longer. :)

...incorrect grammar or (more often) spelling.
...treating restaurant servers etc. poorly.
...being significantly (more than, say, 15m) late to an appointment with me and not contacting me, unless they're stuck in the T or something.
...treating women according to untrue stereotypes.

That last one is tricky. If someone with significant upper body strength offers to help me lift something requiring strong arms, I'm not gonna get offended. If they offer because I'm female and thus shouldn't lift things, well.

[aroraborealis.livejournal.com]

I'm assuming you mean "negatively judge,"

Yes :)

[signsoflife.livejournal.com]

"treating restaurant servers etc. poorly"
gosh, yes.

[chaiya.livejournal.com]

See, that's the list of things I judge people negatively for and feel somewhat justified about it. In fact, I'll add to those that I also judge people negatively for doing things like:
- talking more loudly to a non-English-speaker who doesn't understand what they're saying
- cruel behavior toward animals or people

Things I feel less justified to judge on, but still find myself judging others about:
- taking the elevator one or two floors up or down, rather than the stairs (particularly when stairs are obviously nearby)
- taking the bus one or two stops, rather than walking
- saying "I just don't want to learn how to use that technology" or something along those lines, when the technology seems like an obvious solution to their problem
- behaving incautiously wrt potential exposure to STIs (I have totally done this in my past, so it seems like I have no right to judge people for it now, just because I have changed my behavior.)
- breaking the spine on books when reading them
- deciding not to evaluate likely side-effects that seem obvious to me when making a decision (This last is possibly hard to quantify, but there have definitely been times recently when I've said to myself, "You know, B follows A, here, and you totally could add that factor into your evaluation when deciding whether you want to do this thing, and if so, whether you want to do it now ...")

[veek.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure that judging people on poor grammar and spelling feels justified to me, per se. As another commenter mentioned, though, I tend to judge the people who proclaim to not care.

I've also been known to judge negatively people whose words are incongruous with their actions, people who slurp or make loud smacking sounds when eating, and people who stand in the way of passengers walking out of a train/bus. Justification be damned. :) (But it's good to be aware that I judge these things.)

[chaiya.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure that judging people on poor grammar and spelling feels justified to me, per se.

Fair. I'm not expecting people to expound upon the Oxford comma, but neither do I jump for joy when college-educated folks refuse to use spell check. I guess this belongs more in the less-justified judging list.

[lyonesse.livejournal.com]

*lol* whereas i, non-prescriptivist linguist-at-large, LOVE LOVE LOVE "poor" grammar and spelling -- it's pure data on the state of the idiolect, and grist for many of my mental mills.

doesn't hurt that one of the smartest people i know (the clockwork elf) made an early impression by being non-fluent with the written "two/too/to" homophones when he was in college :)

heh, and now i'm thinking you probably do *not* much judge me by my improper caps ;)

[snowy-owlet.livejournal.com]

Bigotry
Saying they "don't care" about correct spelling
Taking the elevator down one floor

[catness.livejournal.com]

Oh, hell... can't I just do the short list of what I *don't* judge people for?

* what they ARE (vs. what they DO)
* -ever (people change, and my map ought to be able to adjust)

[zevinboots.livejournal.com]

Being mean.

[lyonesse.livejournal.com]

fun and profit!

(well, not really, but it sounded good in my head :)

[dilletante.livejournal.com]

damn, you beat me to it. :)

(well, i was going to say "fun." not sure how to profit from it...)

[kcatalyst.livejournal.com]

Damn you! I ended up having to write a real answer. Serves me right for working instead of keeping up to the minute on lj.

[qwrrty.livejournal.com]

Kicks.

[signsoflife.livejournal.com]

being incurious
behaving parochially
focusing on form over content
confusing prejudice with principles

. . . and by how they judge other people.

[dilletante.livejournal.com]

judging people. ;)

giving flip answers to otherwise thought-provoking questions.

grammar, spelling, logical fallacies, shallow answers to interesting questions, judgement by easy stereotypes, lack of compassion. (not sure any of these are appropriate, but i do sometimes.)

[aroraborealis.livejournal.com]

* behaving inconsiderately to people around them
* expressed disinterest in personal development
* being young
* eating at crappy restaurants
* driving cars I think are bad (ugly, wasteful, unsafe, etc)
* failure to listen

[amber-phoenix.livejournal.com]

"being young"

yep. sad, but true.

[aroraborealis.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that's one of the ones I'm more chagrined to see in myself, but there it is.

[catness.livejournal.com]

Ah, for me... it's *acting* young. Being young is no problem. Like, my bass player... he is young. Everything about him is young young young and it makes me laugh and sometimes makes me go wtf. But he's not a *chump*, he's just... young. If he acted like a jerk while young, I would judge that, but the being young thing is not a thing I mind, as long as the person is developing and willing to do so.

[chaiya.livejournal.com]

expressed disinterest in personal development

Ooh, that's one that's so ingrained on me now, I didn't even think of it.

I used to say that the unexamined life wasn't worth living, to me. It seems lately, I've felt like others who choose to live the unexamined life are just wrong. I feel like it's not fair to go around applying a b&w "wrong" label to someone else's choice, but it's there. :(

[signsoflife.livejournal.com]

Strangely, "being young" is how I forgive people.

It implies a positive trajectory.

the broad strokes, good for either meaning of judge

[amber-phoenix.livejournal.com]

how they treat other people, especially children
how aware/analytical they are of privilege
how much they are guided by fear

and, the ones i think make me look less good...
how they speak, write and comprehend
how they carry themselves
how they dress
how they eat
how skilled they are

random specifics

[amber-phoenix.livejournal.com]

having lots of stuff, particularly kid stuff
drinking diet soda
being skinny, but not ill

[kcatalyst.livejournal.com]

- judging people on grammar
- neglecting data
- shoddy argumentation

[dilletante.livejournal.com]

judging people on grammar

you are my hero. :)

[muffyjo]

...owning their stuff, walking and talking to the same tune and for the kindness they show others.

damned if you do, etc

[aroraborealis.livejournal.com]

... being me.
... not being me.

Re: damned if you do, etc

[kcatalyst.livejournal.com]

Lord, yes. Except me, not you. I very rarely judge people for being you.

Mostly hypocrisy.

[sarahshevett.livejournal.com]

Lying, arrogance and hypocrisy.

amend

[sarahshevett.livejournal.com]

Self righteous arrogance and hypocrisy.

[bloodstones.livejournal.com]

a giant list of things that all basically fall into the category of 'not being aware of one's surroundings, in particular when that inconveniences other people' (ie. parallel parking in a way that takes up two parking spaces, stopping one's car to drop someone off in such a way that no one can get around you, or crossing the street without paying attention to the cars).

I also judge people for things like not sweating when they go to the gym because they're not working out hard enough to break a sweat, but I try to keep that sort of thing under control, whereas I feel totally justified for the former category of judgment.

[aroraborealis.livejournal.com]

giant list of things that all basically fall into the category of 'not being aware of one's surroundings, in particular when that inconveniences other people'

Oh, god, yeah. Not letting people off the train before pushing on, stopping after getting off escalators without room for people behind you to get by, etc.

[mangosteen]

...general obliviousness.
...being ignorant and proud of it.

[amber-phoenix.livejournal.com]

whining
jay walking, at night, while wearing only dark colors
bicycling without a helmet

[amber-phoenix.livejournal.com]

spending tons of time commenting repeatedly, but briefly, on lj entries

[concrete.livejournal.com]

I judge people for their
- transitions
- performance/execution
- choreography
- interpretation
- skating skills

[catness.livejournal.com]

I judge people on their smartass skills. This, I think, is a 9.7.

[ceo]

Failure to live up to one's responsibilities, especially with regard to children. (I appear to have developed a particular peeve on this one about fathers, for some odd reason.)

[dougo.livejournal.com]

jumping to conclusions
littering (seriously, what the hell?)
lack of self-awareness
superstition
wasting other people's time

[macthud]

... a living.

If only.

But seriously ... I try not to, and not only because I don't like being judged by others.

I am bothered by people, and have been known to step in, when they mistreat others, especially children, and less often, themselves ... and things, too, especially but not only when the things are not "their own" (I have odd and conflicting feelings about "property" and rights thereto)...

I do judge people for willful refusal to learn and/or grow. Which is not the same as failure to do either. And I am slow to reach conclusions -- I really do try to give people every benefit of the doubt.